The Ethical Self

Submitted by Tango on Fri, 2006-06-16 07:59.

As part of my employment (how I make money, but not necessarily who I am), I spent all day yesterday at the state Ethics Conference. There was much discussion about ethics in the public sector, how elected officials conduct themselves, and codes of conduct. It got me thinking about ethics in dance, if there is such a thing. There seems to be some unspoken code of conduct to a certain degree -- be respectful, etc. -- and that code is similar to the way we are expected to conduct ourselves in everyday life.

I like the fact that there are no "rules" posted and that we take our cues from our bodies, our gut, our intuition on the dance floor. I like that it can get murky and gray too.

I love to physically connect with other bodies during the dance. I often find myself wanting to go up to dancers and place a hand on their back or embrace them for a moment or lean on them and give them my weight. Yet, if I don't know the person well or haven't contact danced with them before, I more often than not hold back. In fact, I'm always holding back in that department. And there's the mental chatter in my head when I find myself holding back. Questions arise like "Would it be offensive to that person? Or disrepectful of their space?" So I take my cues from my center because that's the most I can ask of myself and I trust that my actions, no matter what they look like to anyone else, come from a place of deep respect for the dance and the other dancer. I like that there are not set "rules" in the dance. I like that it is an ever evolving animal. I like that it is ambiguious sometimes and sometimes crystal clear.

John Says:
Mon, 2006-06-19 21:47

You said that you take your cues from your heart. Yes! That is an aspect of this dance phenonenon that I am learning to appreciate and enjoy. The heart knows what is right, but I am so used to ignoring it and listening to my intellect, and to the rules, that I miss this higher source of wisdom. My inner self is like a huge mystery that is gradually becoming something I can trust and the dance is the vehicle for this learning.

Visudha Says:
Tue, 2006-06-20 07:45

Dropping into (ie listening to, sourcing and moving from) the center was a difficult thing for me to get, which makes it really important to me to use the 5Rhythms as a practice.

I have short term memory loss! I have to come home again, and again, and again so that I imprint my body memory with what is a natural free-flowing way instead of that holding which denies, avoids, pushs aways and fears.

Dropping into the center puts my movement in full motion which allows my heart, the language bridge, to span the distance between my body and my mind.

Visudha Says:
Sun, 2006-06-18 08:02

You mentioned that sometimes you "find yourself wanting...." I wonder if that is actually intuition?

I so often find myself being drawn to something and than my mind gets involved, and I don't act upon that initial thought/feeling. And how often when I do, how beautiful or surprising the result is.

And when I'm really caught in spirit, that place where I'm not thinking, it seems that whatever arises is perfect and natural and in that state of oneness. I see differntly when I am relating from that space rather than my thinking head space. There seems to be so much more possibility and richness and beauty.

Tango Says:
Sun, 2006-06-18 20:44

Yes, I believe strongly in intuition. I am at a place in my life right now where I am listening and trusting my intuition more than ever before. And you articulated so well what happens when I go with my intuition and listen to what my body is saying instead of my head. What arises is so natural because it comes from the center. Thank you for your thoughts. I really do appreciate your perspective, your experience, and your big, open heart.

Visudha Says:
Tue, 2006-06-20 07:50

it's fun to share the mysterious little path......


the deep dark moss curves,
full of velvety softness,
tiptoeing through the brambles,
feet touching the solid earth below
with the babbling conversation of the flowing waters
leading us together in deep appreciation of all the beauty that surrounds our humanity.

John Says:
Mon, 2006-06-19 21:54

I feel exactly the same way about listening to my body versus listening to my head. I am discovering that the body has a language that the mind doesn't know. My body has much to teach me about who I am.

I am in awe that I find myself in this practice. It can be nothing less than Spirit leading me here to the dance for I could not have found it on my own, I could not have known with my mind alone that I needed this. Thank you to all who are part of this wondrous movement and especially to the new friends that I am meeting weekly here at the studio.

Tango Says:
Tue, 2006-06-20 08:47

I'm also learning that my body has much to teach me about who I am. And I am excited and in awe of what my body can do and how it can guide me and comfort me. My head (all that chatter that goes on in there) sometimes feels like an enemy, but I hate to use that word because it's also a part of my body and so must be welcomed, accepted, and loved. I especially feel at odds when I'm deep into my job, which requires nothing but my head. Sometimes I feel like I have two different worlds I live in -- work life (the researching and memo-writing world) and then the rest of my life (dance and clay and all things physical).

John Says:
Fri, 2006-06-16 23:26

Trudes, it sounds like you like it at the edge.

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